Call me Maybe, or Why i Love Phone-Sex

I feel like there’s this stigma surrounding phone-sex, or at the very least I think it gets a bit of a bad rap. It’s not the same as the ‘real thing’. It’s really only for those poor bastards in their long-distance relationships. It’s so hard to know what’s actually going on at the other end. And so on. There is truth in all of these statements, however, I want to talk about it, because I actually really, really love it (also Sir said this should be the topic of my next essay and what Sir wants, Sir gets). But I actually really do love phone-sex, and I’m not afraid to admit it.

I love it for what it is. It isn’t the same as actual-in-the-flesh fucking, but it does have its own appeal. A lot of what turns me on is vocal; dirty talk, commands, pet names, hearing him get off etc. Engaging my brain is the surest way to really get me wet. And when my partner only has their voice and intonation to use, my brain becomes very in-tune and engaged to every little sound that comes through that earpiece. And I have to use my voice, too. Often during sex/sexual acts I can get somewhat non-verbal. I’m the shyest slut you’ll ever meet and I can find it really challenging to speak up, especially when I’m blissed-out. Being on the phone means I’m not able to use my wanton grin or coy looks or whorish hips to express my reactions. Instead, I have to tell him what is happening inside my head and to my body, because the sensations that he’s coaxing are very, very real. So real, in fact, that sometimes it can feel like he is right there with me.

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Which is why phone-sex is so important to a long-distance relationship (LDR), I think. It’s a real-time opportunity to experience the connection you crave with your partner. However, it’s not just for LDRs, but for anytime there is some kind of distance. Like when one partner is away for business, or for couples who don’t live together, or for people with just really f’ing busy schedules that can maybe only make time for a ‘quickie’ that doesn’t require any commute. I honestly don’t know if enough people are having phone-sex enough of the time, but I think there can always be room for more of a good thing.

That is, as long as both ends of the line are experiencing it as a good thing – and are fully experiencing it. I suppose this is where two of our most commonly touted tenets come in, trust and communication. These basic principles are already what our dynamics are supposed to be built on and if you have to question what your phone-sex partner is doing, I’m going to posit that the phone-sex itself isn’t the problem and your dynamic, in general, should be reviewed. Because if he tells me to stop touching myself until he gives me permission to do so again, I should absolutely stop touching myself and he should have no doubt that I have, in fact, stopped touching myself. If you need a little extra peace of mind, ask to get a picture text, or use apps like FaceTime and Skype, which also have the added benefit of increasing the intensity with some stimulating visuals.

Now, if you don’t mind, I think I need to make a call…

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