Why I think, “Princess by day and slut by night” is a great identity.

I was reading a post that was saying people who list that they are looking for “Princess by day and a Slut by night” is a horrible identity and promotes a sexist and slut shaming philosophy.

While I understood where the Op was coming from, the problem that she failed to realize is that there are actual men looking for exactly that and lots of women looking to be exactly that.
And guess what, that’s okay!!!!

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I support gay rights, I love people who believe in gender neutral identifiers and who are gender fluid, pansexual and the many more different and awesome ways to identify.

But not falling into one of those identities and emulating classic gender stereotypes is okay too, and not seeing the world through gender neutral eyes is perfectly fine, as long as you don’t oppress and try to limit people who see things differently from how you view things.

I’ve never dated anyone who is gender neutral, nor would I want to. That’s not what I’m personally attracted to. The women I’ve dated very much buy into the princess by day and slut by night philosophy or as we say, a freak in the sheets and a lady in the streets and that’s perfectly okay to want to live that type of mentality and okay if you want that from your partner as well.

It’s not shameful to be accepting of a duality, some women want to have. In fact, it’s liberating to be able to say, this is who and what I am. No matter what you are and sometimes what you are is multi layered and you want to be one way at certain times and another way at other times.

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Bottom line, all identities are personal and should be respected, be it gay, straight, bi-sexual and the many more seuxal and gender identifiers you want to choose from.

Just because you see life through a gender neutral lens, don’t think everyone does or should. Everyone should be respectful of how others want to live and be identified, but that includes those who are into seeing things in a non – gender neutral way as well as long as they understand, not everyone will fall into how they see the world.

Because differences should be celebrated, not condemned, just because they’re different from your own way of being.

 

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As always, you hit it squarely on the head… I always come away from reading your writings with an wider awareness of what I think and believe and why I think and believe it… sometimes there’s a disparity in the opinions between two people or between groups of people but there are always the basics… this nails some of those basics. Thank you for stating it so eloquently.

 

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